I’m no stranger to hard work. I held a part-time job (or two) throughout high school and college. I completed three internships while I was at Temple University. I began working full-time immediately after graduation. I come into the office early and I’ve skipped nights out or dinner with friends so that I can stay late to finish up a project.
Like I said, I’ve always been a hard worker. One concept I’m less familiar with is the idea that you have to give yourself a break every once in a while. After a year of working full-time with no real breaks and a particularly hectic last few months, I’ve finally started to realize how important it is to treat yourself.
You don’t have to book a vacation to a foreign country or spend hundreds of dollars on a shopping spree, but sometimes you do have to put work aside and put yourself first in order to stay sane.
Here are a few simple things you can do to treat yourself:
There really is no stress that can’t be eliminated by a quick trip to the nail salon. Grab a bottle of bright polish, head over to one of those comfy massage chairs and enjoy half an hour of pure relaxation.
Pack up your things on time for once and head out to happy hour with some of your friends after work. Most restaurants and bars have happy hour specials, so take advantage. [If you live in Philly, make sure you check out Center City Sips, a promotion that runs until August 28.]
Impromptu Shopping Trip
Stop by your favorite store and pick up something you really like. It doesn’t have to be a $300 purse or $100 pair of shoes. Maybe there’s a dress on the clearance rack that you’ve had your eye on, or maybe the latest season of Scandal just came out on DVD. Whatever it is, forget your tight budget for a few seconds and buy something (no matter how small) that makes you happy.
Whether it is a free show at the local bar or a sold out concert in a big sports stadium, concerts are one of the best ways to unwind. If there’s one thing I’m willing to spend money on, it’s a great live show. That’s why I bought tickets to three concerts so far this year. Back in March I headed to North Jersey to see P!nk, and I have to say…it was one of the best nights I’ve had in a long time. This Thursday, I’ll be heading see the one and only Beyoncé at the Wells Fargo Center. Then in August I’ll be at Jay-Z and Justin Timberlake’s Legends of the Summer Tour. Maybe three concerts in half a year is a bit excessive, but this is my one big splurge for myself this year.
How do you treat yourself?
Day 28: What if you were pregnant or got someone pregnant, what would you do?
To keep it short and sweet, I have no idea what I would do. So, instead I’d like to dedicate this blog post to all the mothers I know that have done everything they can to ensure the best possible life for their children — including my own mother.
When a woman makes the decision to become a mother she is making the decision to dedicate her life to another person, to always put someone else before herself. That is no easy task. Cheers to all of you, especially the single mothers doing it all on your own and the young mothers who have put their “golden years” on hold to raise their little ones. You are all stronger than you know.
On Saturday, July 13 Hollywood lost another young star. This time it was Cory Monteith, best known for playing Finn Hudson on FOX’s hit show Glee.
Monteith was found dead in his Vancouver hotel room after missing check-out on Saturday. On Tuesday, the actor’s autopsy revealed that his death had been caused by an overdose of heroin and alcohol. The Glee star made his battle with addiction public a few years back, telling Parade Magazine that he began using drugs and alcohol at the age of 13. In April, Cory checked himself into rehab for substance abuse. Since his release, Cory seemed to be back on track, filming movies and making plans for the future. The star’s apparent re-committment to a sober life made his tragic death even more shocking.
While the loss of any life is troubling, when a public figure dies the pain usually felt by friends and family tends to spread far and wide – reaching the many fans of that individual. We tend to feel strong connections to the celebrities we follow and sometimes even stronger connections to the characters they play. Based on the response to Cory’s death, it seems that this is very much the case for Glee fans (affectionately known as Gleeks).
At the end of last season, the fate of Cory’s character Finn was very undefined. Would he get back together with his high school sweetheart Rachel? Would he join his friends in New York? Would he take over the Glee club back in Lima? Now, with Monteith’s sudden death, it seems that Finn’s true destiny will never have the chance to play itself out.
Glee’s creators met on Monday to discuss the next steps for the hit show now that one of its main characters is out of the picture. With production on Season 5 scheduled to start next week, rumors are already flying that the upcoming season will be pushed back in order to let the cast cope with Cory’s death and for writers to properly incorporate his loss into the story lines. There really is no easy way to handle the situation. Killing Finn off could be too harsh, but simply writing his character out of the show doesn’t seem plausible either. Will there be an actual tribute to Finn/Cory or will they simply let the story line play out? There are a million options for how the creators of Glee can handle Cory’s death as they head into Season 5, but no matter what decision they make there is one guarantee — their actions will be closely watched.
The way that Glee deals with the loss of one of their biggest stars is sure to impact the show’s future. If fans don’t like the way Finn’s story line ends, they may abandon the show. If producers choose to kill off the character, it may hit too close to home and offend some people. The next few months are not going to be easy for the cast, creators and fans of Glee…but at least they will be in it together.
Cory’s run on Glee will be bookended by the song “Don’t Stop Believin.”
The video above is from the show’s pilot episode, and coincidentally the original cast
members returned to perform the song again during last season’s finale.
R.I.P. Cory Monteith…your presence on Glee will surely be missed.
You’re welcome for that RENT reference. If you didn’t get it, go watch the movie on Netflix, download the soundtrack, see the musical at your community theater….something.
Yesterday – May 10, 2013 – marked one year since my graduation from Temple University. I still feel like I was walking across the stage yesterday. Honestly, even my high school graduation seems like it happened a few weeks ago. When they say “time flies,” they definitely aren’t lying.
It has been a full 365 days since I completed my college career and officially entered the real world. As I’m writing this, I can’t help but think about where I was a year ago at this very minute….I’m pretty sure my best friends and I were wrapping up at Plough and the Stars before heading over to one of Philly’s greatest dive bars, obviously the best way to end your college experience.
In the last year, a lot has changed. Thankfully, the most important things – like friendships – have remained strong.
So, in the spirit of RENT’s amazing song, “Seasons of Love,” I really thought about how to measure the past year. Here’s a quick wrap up.
I’ve had three big girl jobs – the first two were contract-based, now I am working full-time for the City of Philadelphia. I attended five concerts (Wired Fest, Made in America, Kelly Clarkson and the Fray, Jay-Z, Pink) and bought tickets for another two awesome shows coming this summer (Beyonce and Jay-Z/Justin Timberlake). I made my way down to D.C. several times to see one of my best friends, and we even enjoyed a view of the White House in the early hours of the morning (around 3 a.m.) with a fishbowl in hand. I got to spend New Year’s Eve in New York City for the first time. I was able to pull off my first press conference and land amazing national placements. I became far too emotionally invested in television characters…thanks Scandal. I started a blog and managed to keep it updated. I’ve taken more Megabus rides that I care to think about. I got to reconnect with old friends that I hadn’t seen in a while, and I met great new people that have become a big part of my life. I found my first apartment and will officially become a resident of Philadelphia in a week. I’ve laughed, cried, danced, fallen down (literally and figuratively), lost my mind, dreamed, worked my butt off, and more. And I loved every minute of it.
I still can’t believe that my friends and I graduated a year ago, but when I think about all we have accomplished it makes me insanely proud. In an economy that is still less than stellar, everyone I know has managed to find a job. We are all fighting to make our mark on the world, and a year out from college I’d say we’re doing pretty well. Here’s hoping that year two post-grad is just as successful as this past year.
Five hundred twenty-five thousand six hundred minutes
Five hundred twenty-five thousand moments so dear
Five hundred twenty-five thousand six hundred minutes
How do you measure, measure a year?